Troy’s Morning Coffee Reflections

Sexting is the newest fad among tweens and teens, and is quickly becoming one of the top causes for teen suicide.

Have you ever thought… Where did it all start? Well as a father of six kids, five of which are young adults or teens, I think about this all the time.

I remember when I thought “Girl’s Gone Wild” and MTV’s “Spring Break” shows were cool, sexy and funny. Then, I had my first daughter, and realize, what started in the 50s with one magazine called Playboy, has turned into a multi-billion dollar exploitation of our kids.

Facts: A national survey last fall found 20 percent of teenagers said they have sent or posted online nude or semi-nude pictures of themselves, and 39 percent said they have sent or posted sexually suggestive message.

The former Porn star (I say former because she is retired) Jenna Jamison was interviewed by Bill O’Rielly not to long ago and I found her interview both enlightening and heart breaking as a father. And once again realized that Sexting, is just the next stage in an ever evolving break down in family values. It’s not the mom’s fault, or the dad’s fault, it’s BOTH!

What you don’t see in the above interview is how and why she got into porn.

In her autobiography she states the following:

“Her mother died of skin cancer on February 20, 1976, before her daughter’s second birthday. The cancer treatments bankrupted the family and they moved several times, including living in a trailer and moving in with her father’s mother. Her father spent most of his time at work at the Las Vegas Sheriff’s Department, and she became very close to her brother, Tony.

In October 1990, while the family was living on a cattle ranch in Fromberg, Montana, she was beaten with rocks and gang raped by four boys after a football game. While still 16 she says she was raped a second time, by Preacher, her boyfriend Jack’s biker uncle. (Preacher has denied this.) Rather than tell her father, she left home and moved in with Jack in her first serious relationship.”

For whatever reason, she and her dad did not have the type of relationship where she could go to him and share what had happened. Instead she slipped deeper into a drug induced life, that evenually, lead her to a career in porn, where in her words “I started to get back at Jack for messing around on her.”

So if you are reading this, take a second and watch the interview above. then take time to get with your kids, and make sure they understand that everything decision they make, like sexting, will always be out there, somewhere, and will effect their life in the future.

Even though Jenna has retired from the adult (porn) industry, her success inside that industry, will haunt her forever. And someday, somewhere when her kids are in their teens, someone will bring up how their mother earned her money.

As you have seen me write and say over and over… It Should Never Hurt To Be A Child.

Although, I do not approve on Jenna’s past choice of careers, and would never want one of my kids to be in this industry. I commend her for choosing her kids over her career.

I hope you realize you can’t blame broken homes, single parents, schools, Hollywood, pear pressure, T.V. or or Technology.

When it’s all said and done, it comes down to the same reason all relationships fail… Lack of authentic and transparent communication.

Troy’s Truth: Where there is no authentic and transparent communication… There is NO TRUST!

For more information on the issue of Sexting, I suggest you read the article my good friends over at OSA (Online Security Authority) have written. You can read it here!

Never Give Up,

Troy

p.s. Here is one solution to help you protect your children from sexting, cyber bullying, and unwanted porn on their computers and IPhones.

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Tags: Adult Industry, Jenna Jamison, Porn, Sexting