…And What I Did to Transform into a Man Living & Leading From The Heart!
Grab a cup of coffee, a glass of tea, or whatever your favorite drink is, and sit back and read what I have to say; let it resonate in your own mind, and reflect on your life. I want you to reflect on the last few years as an Entrepreneurial man and ponder how you treat your wife and kids.
Ask yourself this question – Do I treat my family differently than my clients or co-workers – if so, why?
Regrettably, as I look back on my life, I see where I did just this. It came home to me in my wife’s comment: “I wish you supported me like you do your clients and social media friends.” Talk about a gut punch!
Here I was giving my heart to clients, teammates, and social media “friends,” and my family was getting my leftovers, which wasn’t much other than a short-fused, grumpy old man. It’s no wonder they bought me a Grumpy Dwarf shirt from Disney.
Regrettably, I learned far too late in life what it means to be a husband and dad, leading from the heart. If it weren’t for Paige putting up with my crap for 35 years and my kids willing to speak the truth like their mom, I would still be taking a destructive path.
Transformation isn’t for the faint of heart and doesn’t come overnight. It’s far different than a short-term change or quick fix to get your way or calm a tense situation. With transformation, you’ll never go back to the old you. Have you ever seen a butterfly transform back into a caterpillar? Transformation means you’re finally taking time to address who you truly are and drawing a line in the sand!
I didn’t become a toxic man, husband, and father overnight, and transformation didn’t come without discomfort or overnight. I also learned not to expect those closest to me to see the shift happening, at least not in the beginning. When we violate trust and safety, it takes time to rebuild both. Even with transformation, we still face natural repercussions of our past actions or lack thereof.
But in seeking discomfort, to be uncomfortable, and to be the best husband, friend, and dad I can be, regardless of the pain it takes. I am becoming a man who lives and leads straight from the heart, not from iron fists and a razor-sharp tongue.
The Jewish scholar Paul wrote the following:
Love is patient; love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant, is not rude, is not self- seeking, is not irritable, and does not keep a record of wrongs. Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth.
It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. Now, these three remain: faith, hope, and love — but the greatest of these is love.
Ist Corinthians 13
I’m ready to listen if you’re ready to talk to start your transformation. Let’s walk this path together!
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